Why do I hate girls so much?

I have a boyfriend. And when a girl flirts with him knowing i am his girlfriend... i get filled with rage. I'm starting to hate all girls because it seems like none of them care if the guy they are flirting with has a girlfriend. Its just disrespectful. I would never flirt with a guy who has a girlfriend. What makes this even worse is some of the girls are even my so called friends.


Also i have been with my boyfriend for TWO years now.


You see the biggest problem i have is they are actually talking to him, texting him and building a relationship with him. And on top of all of that theyre flirting with him. and he is allowing it. he doesnt have much self control either because he has cheated on me before. He has low self esteem and yeah it does boost his ego, but everytime it boost his ego my ego gets "kicked in the ovaries" so to speak. Anyone relate?
Why do I hate girls so much?
I think there is nothing strange any girl would feel so.
Why do I hate girls so much?
You should be angry with HIM because he cheated on you, it's not the fault of every woman in the world that your man was unfaithful. You're suspicious of his every move and are interpreting every little bit of female interaction as the next potential "one". Just relax and treat life as the humorous nonsense it is. If you forgave him for cheating then you have to let it go. You sound really possessive and this relationship isn't healthy for either of you in my opinion.
Reply:yeah i hear you =/ i've had everyone from my bf's best friend to his ex-gf, to old co-workers hit on him or offer to have a fling! and they *know* he has a gf (i.e. me)! the one thing that keeps me from worrying is that my bf is very monogamous and would never cheat.





i give you props for staying with him after he cheated... but i think you two need to sit down and have one long and serious talk about all the attention he receives and how he deals with it.
Reply:It seem you are the one who has low self esteem dear. Face it, this fool is a dog. Next time you feel "kicked in the ovaries" kick his butt instead.
Reply:even though he has cheated on you, it was your choice to stay in the relationship, and becoming angry with him only shows your own vulnerability. it's pointless and it only hurts your relationship in the end. despite how much you think that your boyfriend belongs to you and is your property, he isn't, and should be allowed to be friends with whoever he chooses.





sorry, but if you're filled with rage as you say you are, then maybe it's time to let go?
Reply:Hello this is a guys opinion on this. You have every right to be angry when your bf is flirted with. It is disrespectful that people (especially your friends) would flirt with him. I would not call these people your friends any longer. Also you mentioned that he lets them flirt with him. It is always good for a guys ego when he ism flirted with, but when they start building a relationship with him any decent guy would stop them. Now to the point. This is sad but true that he should no longer be your boyfriend. You have to break up with him. If it was the first time he had flirted with other women in this way you could tell him to stop and threaten to break up with him if he didn't, but he has cheated before so you MUST end it for your own good. I am sorry but this guy is obviously a loser that doesn't deserve you. Best of luck. Bye.
Reply:lol. talk to him about it and if it doesn't change, dump his ***. Cheating on you is horrible and after two years, he shouldn't need any other girl to "boost his ego"... lol Cosmo says, "compliment his arms... to boost his ego"


Don't hate the girls, what they are doing is not respectable, but they don't owe you anything, your boy does. If he allows it, they think it's okay. Fix the problem within your relationship before you go hating on everyone. Oh... and chicks before *****. If your so-called friends can't understand that.. well talk to them, if they still don't, they don't deserve your friendship.





i can't relate completely, but i HAD a friend who did that, wasn't someone i wanted influencing my life in any way.





Honesty. and be honest with yourself, sometimes you gotta realize you deserve better.
Reply:I can understand where you're coming from here. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and it seems like cheap sluts just flock to him and flirt with him in front of me and it makes me want to STRANGLE them lol. Knowing that a guy has a girlfriend and flirting with him anyway is totally disrespectful and I would never do that either.





But I have to say, while it's totally wrong for girls to act like that towards him, you said he cheated before? And that he doesn't have much self control and has low self esteem? I don't know the circumstances of his cheating, but you might want to reevaluate everything and decide whether or not you can really trust him. It just seems like if he has low self esteem and gets an ego boost from other girls flirting with him, what's to stop him with going further with a girl because it'll make him feel like he's attractive?





Maybe talk to him about all of this and let him know how it makes you feel. I mean, he cheated and you cared enough about him to give him another chance, so he needs to step up his game and make sure that you feel comfortable and safe with him. He can have female friends, but he needs to keep it appropriate. As far as girls who flirt with him and such, he needs to end that NOW. I don't care what kind of ego boost he gets, he should get an ego boost from knowing he has an awesome girlfriend who cares about him.
Reply:i would do the same thing back to him and if he question me about it i would say " now you know how i feel?"


and talk about everything, how i feel and all.
Reply:I say leave the guy already,


Im quite sure judging from your question, that you have talk about this with him. Not only that the guy have cheated on you before but makes no sign that he has regret over his actions and instead allows such relationships to go on. That sure sounds like a cheater, don't you think?


Leave him, find a better man. That will appreciated you and love for who you are.
Reply:Those girls dont sound like friends, they sound like total bitches...i wouldnt put up with it. I wouldnt put up with a guy who cheated on me either, i think you should tell him exactly how you feel, and ask him to stop flirting because it makes you feel bad, tell him if he continues to do this, his *** is getting dumped. Ask him how he'd feel if you cheated on him and flirted with his friends- that should give him a good perspective. Tell your friends also cause they are being really crap friends. If i were you, i'd dump him and find a bf that treated me with more respect. If he wont change, thats what you should do. And dw, not all girls are like that. i wouldnt dream of doing that in a million years
Reply:I think the problem is on your boyfriend, not the other girls and not to mention that he has cheated on you before, so..





If your boyfriend is hot, then there is no doubt that other girls would flirt with him. And as you said, he does allow it and you can see what is actually happening between him and other girls.





So don't hate other girls, it is not their fault. Instead, you need to find a way to stop your boyfriend.





Well, this is just my opinion though.

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